Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Be Real

I learned a simple lesson about psychology recently. The most screwed up people are the people who ignore their demons. Those demons creep up and do a piledriver on you because you tried to pretend they weren't there.



Psychologists don't use tricks or mind games to help you fix your issues. They just make you talk about them. They make you bring them out from the shadows so you can see and examine them. And then the two of you troubleshoot them over cocktails or something like that.

Be real with yourself and you'll save thousands of dollars in therapy..

Monday, October 29, 2012

The Strong Survive

"The weak are meat and the strong do eat."

I saw Cloud Atlas yesterday afternoon. Spoiler alert.. Tom Hanks plays EVERYBODY in the movie.

A time or two, one of the characters said a little diddy about the strong versus the weak. As I sat at work today I had a realization about what true strength is. 

We were having a discussion about two customers, let's call them Mercury and Venus (note that Mars has nothing to do with this). Mercury and Venus pretty much do the exact same thing and thus hired us to do for them the exact same thing. However, human nature can have a profound effect on exactness. Separate individuals were enlisted to handle the separate but equivalent projects for Mercury and Venus. One individual's ability to handle the Mercury project was stronger than the other individual's ability to handle the Venus project. Thus, Mercury became the shining example of how to do the project correctly. The other? The shortcomings of that project shone through due to comparisons to the well done project.

Here's where things get fun. These individuals and the things they did with these projects will effect the future of our company's ability to help these customers. Fixing problems for the Mercury project are simple or unnecessary. Resolving future issues regarding the Venus project become difficult and troublesome. The individuals that have to deal with problems on both sides are the benefactors or casualties of the work done by their seniors. As these juniors grow into seniors, they will pass on what they learned. Benefactors of the Mercury project will appreciate the company they work for and know how to do things the right way. The casualties of the Venus project will be bitter and potentially pay the problems they encountered forward. 

So.. Strength. The strong are the senior project handlers. Their actions effect the junior project handlers. However, the strong are divided. The true strong will produce true strength. They complete the project in a way that benefits everyone. The weaker of the strong will produce more weak strength. Their project will cause grief and difficulty for all who encounter it. 

That's the swindle. Now let's get political. 

Today's Republicans are that weak strong that I am referring to. They have all the money and the power. They hold all the cards. However they act in a way that does not benefit the future that will ultimately have the money and the power. In their bitterness, the cycle will continue until someone learns to break the chain. I won't say that Democrats are the true strong. I believe the true strong are those powerful individuals like Bill Gates, Warren Buffett, and (in my humble opinion) Barack Obama who have achieved monumental success but have not lost their sense of humanity and community. The people they inspire will have that strength and continue to pass it on. 

The problem with people is that we assume true strength means power. True strength is exercising power in a way that benefits those affected by it. Weakness is abusing or misusing that power. 

You Win

Congratulations! You've just won an all inclusive trip to shut the fuck up!

Please excuse my Monday behavior.. This beautiful Florida day while the north is dealing with the end of days via Hurricane Sandy aint helpin' much either....



You don't have to get it!

Sunday, October 21, 2012

The Story of She + Me = Us

I am proud to say that I am in a successful relationship. Today I realized why my relationship is successful. Most people attempt to add someone to their own world rather than building a world together. In other words, that love interest becomes a co-star rather than your entire story meshing with his/her story and thus becoming a new story about the both of you together. 

She loves tango. I have taken up tango. 
I am heavily invested in politics. She has also recently become more invested in politics.
I make her tapes of recent CDs I've purchase for her to listen to. 
She cooks things that she likes that I haven't tried before.
We watch many of the same shows.
We shop together.
We cook together.
We clean up together.
We take care of each other.

I think the openness that we have to allow our worlds to intertwine holds us together like no marriage certificate or offspring ever could.

Now this isn't to say that we don't have our own separate lives. When she and I aren't together, we are the people we have always been, but with a little extra shine that we get from spending quality time and being loved by one another.

Shout out to mi amor. You know who you are.

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Random Conversation In My Head Volume 1

A: So what's up, man?

B: Baby raped me.

A: What? You got raped by a baby?

B: No. Her name is Baby.

A: So you got raped by a baby named Baby?

B: No! The bitch's name is Baby that raped me.

A: Soo.. You got raped by a dog named Baby?

B: What is wrong with you?

A: Me? You the one got raped by a baby!